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A Beginner’s Practical Guide To Online Dating Success


How To Get Started With Online Dating

How To Get Started With Online Dating

Editor’s Note: this online dating article courtesy of guest writer

If you’re struggling to find love in the real world, it’s a good idea to start trying your luck in the cyber world. However, if you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re going to have a hard time finding someone you can potentially fall in love with. If you follow these simple but effective online dating tips you’ll increase your chances of meeting that special someone online and developing a relationship that can turn into something meaningful.

Setting Up Your Profile For Success

The first step toward beginning your online dating experience is to pick a dating site and fill out your online profile. The first thing you need to think about is the username you choose to represent yourself on the dating site. Try to make your username unique, fit your personality, and create it with the kind of person you want to attract in mind.

If you’re online trying to find your soul mate using a username like ‘Mr1FunNight’ you’re probably going to attract the type of attention you aren’t really interested in from the other users.

Use An Updated Photo

Make sure you use an updated photo of yourself when you upload your profile picture. You don’t want to use any old picture or a photograph that may be altered in any way because it will only delay what the truth really is. The photo should show your personality in some way.

When people are online looking for someone to meet (especially women) they will judge your online image a lot harsher than they would if they saw you in person. This is why you should be honest with yourself and with them when choosing photos.

People want to get to know the real you – and be attracted to who you really are – so post photos of yourself in your everyday life. Try to avoid using the photos of yourself on that rare boating trip you took around the Caribbean.

In the photos you post, wear clothes that have bright colors so you’ll stand out. You want to spark their interest, and the type of colors you wear will definitely make or break you. Take several photos and not just one. Take a couple of head shots and then mix it up with some photos of your entire body, and make sure you smile in all of them. And keep the photos clean.

More Profile Details

When it comes to filling out the details of your profile including what you like, what you don’t like, or what type of person you are, try not to create a profile only directed toward the other members of the site. For example, don’t create your profile only talking about your job and what you do in your profession.

People online can’t see you so they want to get to know you on a personal level that’s deeper than if they were to meet you somewhere on the street. If you’re having problems with this part of setting up your profile you can utilize online services that offer profile writing or questionnaires.

After all of that, if you think your profile isn’t as good as it could be, you can ask someone close to you – someone that knows you very well – for their opinion on your profile. Try to ask a friend of the opposite sex (or the same gender you’re attracted to) to critique your profile and give you some insights. They could probably tell you what you’re missing and need to add, or what you would be better off removing from your profile.

Keep your profile short because you don’t want people to have to read a book in order to get to know you. You want people to easily scan through your profile and get an idea of who you are. A great way to do this is to tell a quick story about yourself.

When you tell a story, you’ll separate yourself from many of the other members on the dating site. For example, instead of saying how much you like to bowl, try talking about the time you had so much fun at the bowling alley they kept the place open for you and your friends for an extra hour. People love stories, and if you can use a story to tell potential dates more about yourself, you’re going to get a lot more attention, messages and friend requests sent to you.

Now It’s Time To Start Meeting People

Now that you have your profile set up, and you have your best pictures online, it’s time to start meeting some of the other members of your chosen dating site. The key is to not focus on just one person. If you only send one email to one member on the site, you can’t expect to be successful.

There could be a lot of different reasons why that one person didn’t contact you back so you have to keep your options open. Most dating sites have millions of people online each day so there is no way you can run out of options. Try to make as many contacts as you can daily, and reply back to most of the messages you get. Even the person you might not be immediately attracted to could turn out to be Mr. or Mrs. Right.

“Increase your search criteria and you’ll get a lot more potential love interests and increase your success rate.”

Also, when searching for people online to contact, don’t narrow your searches too much. Increase your search criteria and you’ll get a lot more potential love interests and increase your success rate. Mention to them that their profile caught your eye because you have some of the same interests as them. Also, when messaging somebody don’t make your message too sexually oriented unless you’re just looking for a one night stand.

Wrapping It Up

Most online dating sites have pre-written templates you can use to send members messages.

However, never use these templates because millions of other members are most likely using them. You want your message to be personalized so that the member you’re contacting knows you are really interested and took the time to read his or her profile.

  • Create a profile on an online dating site
  • Use a photos of you in everyday life so the interested party gets a feeling for who you are
  • Wear colorful clothing
  • Create a profile that attracts the kind of person you’re interested in
  • Tell a story in your profile
  • Send messages to more than one site member whom you might be interested in to increase your chances of getting a reply
  • Make contacts daily and always respond to their messages
  • Don’t be sexually explicit
  • Don’t use the dating sites contact templates – keep the contact intimate and personal

Most of all, have fun!

John Maddox is a professional relationship counselor and does some writing for How To Ask Girls Out, which is a site dedicated to helping guys improve their luck when it comes to girls. If you are a man struggling to get girls the tips you’ll find on the website will change that.”

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